June 18, 2009

Your Assignment, Should You Choose to Accept - 6/18/09

It's time, once again, for MamaKat's weekly writing prompts, and I'm posting early again. Today, I've chosen:
  1. Grab your current read. Let the book fall open to a random page and share two “teaser” sentences from that page, somewhere between lines 7 and 12.
    (inspired by Heather).
I'm currently reading The Good Wife Strikes Back, by Elizabeth Buchan. I just started the book yesterday, so I'm still finding my way with the main characters, Will and Fanny Savage. I prefer their names to be last name first (then they'd be Savage Will and Savage Fanny; changes the whole feel of the story, I think).

"It was as if there was a vacuum inside me, sucking up the person that was me," she confided, soon after she moved in with us, "and I could only fill it one way."

In fact, he was very fond of white-filtered American cigarettes, and it made me smile then that a testament of our intimacy was having smoke blown in my face.

You can find the book on Amazon.com. You will see that it is NOT pornographic, even though my two random sentences, when taken out of context, sound a bit racy.

I've also chosen the 3rd prompt today.

3. Share a piece of unsolicited parenting advice (which is really being solicited by MamaKat). Taking care of kids is frustrating. The little critters suffer from selective deafness - they never hear when you tell them not to do something; you repeat and repeat until you get sick of hearing yourself speak; temper lost, reason thrown out the window.

My advice? Regularly "catch them being good". Thank them when they get along with their siblings, when they share, when they play well together. Smile at them. Hug them. Give 'em an 'atta boy'. Speak in a calm, quiet voice (you know, the one you get when the Xanax kicks in). If you say it quietly, they won't be able to hear you if they're being noisy...they will quiet down and stare at you, wondering why you are complimenting them in the middle of the day.

After all, nothing brings joy to a mother's heart than well-behaved, yet confused children!
No, wait, maybe that's just me talkin'. Never mind.

15 comments:

  1. Evil stepmother!!!
    I have one of those...
    Hello June Freaking Cleaver
    Thank you for stopping by..
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  2. Shoot...it's not pornographic? And, I was getting so excited. And thanks for the advice. I actually try doing that, but the good behavior occurs so infrequently that I have to be on my toes constantly to catch them at it. And, at my weight, being on my toes proves quite uncomfortable:)

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  3. Awesome advice! You are so right.....praise them when they are being good and they will behave like that more and more to get your attention.

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  4. I almost did the same thing as you! I wrote about my current read, but by the time I was done talking about my boo, I couldn't think of any parenting advice. LOL

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  5. Great advice! I try point to regularly point out good behavior. My oldest, especially, thrives on praise!

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  6. Good advice, I'm going to have to try that with my 2 year old!

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  7. Good advice, June! (I keep addressing you w/ your real name so I'm congratulating myself for remembering! LOL )

    Intriguing book excerpt. Have you continued to enjoy it?

    Sandy

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  8. Yes, I'm enjoying the book. The title makes the Mister squirm a bit, perhaps he fears that I'LL strike back? Actually, I think it could be called The Good Wife Strikes Out - as she steps outside her role as wife and mother and re-enters her previous life.

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  9. Great post...thanks for the teaser ... may have to check that one out.

    Have a great day!

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  10. That books sound pretty interesting, though that second sentence definately had me fooled in the "non-porno" area.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog. I told my brother that I didn't think she had a right, as far as the law was concerned, to keep his daughter from him but and he has an appt. with his lawyer next Tuesday to discuss it. Thats if he makes to the appt...he's already gotten himself in trouble again. Either way I'd like to know what his rights are and what rights we have, especially my mom as the grandmother, has to get to see her.

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  11. Love your name. Your parenting advice is timeless. When I'm not spewing steam out my ears and actually put it into application it works wonders! Go figure.

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  12. Now that is PERFECTLY wonderful advice. I love it : ). It is always better to focus on the positive versus the negative. Heavens knows there is a LOT of negative in the world!

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  13. Thank you all for all the positive feedback about my parenting advice. It's easy to write about, a lot harder to put into practice in a consistent manner.

    Even though I've been doing this mom thing forever (longer than some of you have been alive), I still need an occasional reminder to focus on the good stuff.

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