As The Boy and I were recounting the events that led up to his arrest, I mentioned the mark that he had around the front of his neck - I saw it when I got my 20-minute visit to him at detention (when I dropped off his medications at the detention center). The Boy said he got the mark when one of the teachers at his school was holding the neckline of his t-shirt while she was physically restraining him. The detention center attendant said that they took pictures of the mark when they brought him in (I'm sure they wanted to document that THEY didn't cause him to be hurt).
The doctor was stunned that The Boy had been arrested and placed in detention. Apparently, that is not a common occurrence with her patients who have been diagnosed with similar mental health issues.
She said that she is a mandatory reporter, and that she was going to call DFS (
Here's what I got from the Department of Social Services Web site:
The school did NOT report it; the detention center did NOT report it - and I didn't either. Am I a bad mom because I overlooked this? I had no idea that I should have called. I've never been involved with DFS, so I'm claiming ignorance.
I received a call from DFS not long after we returned from the appointment. The worker who called said that she would call the school this morning - and she did. School districts have two options in this regard: they may do an internal investigation, or they may request DFS to do the investigation into the allegations. Our school district decided to do an internal investigation - they will forward their findings to DFS.
I am fearful that the school district will determine that The Boy is no longer a fit for their program, and that he will have to attend another program (maybe one that is not close by, requiring him to be admitted to a residential program).
My hope is that the school will offer additional training to their staff so that no other children get bruises or any injuries when they need to be restrained.
I hate conflict - I want The Boy to continue to attend his current school. The doctor also has requested that I set up an emergency IEP meeting at the school to change his educational designation from Other Health Impaired (OHI) to Emotionally Disturbed (ED). This change in designation may prevent a future arrest during an outburst, because the behavior is due to his diagnoses.
I just have a feeling that all of this will backfire, and The Boy will have to leave a teacher and a program he truly likes (and has had some success in).