You're damned if you do, moms, and you're damned if you don't. Look what we do to ourselves...
A study in the journal Personal Relationships spoke with 78 dual wage earner couples with an 8-month old baby. Here's what it found:
If the dad was great with the baby, and shared in the childcare, the moms felt bad about themselves. The conclusion is due to societal expectations - moms are supposed to be the primary caregivers; so if your husband is uber helpful, then you're not doing your Supermom best.
If the dad did not share in the childcare, then the moms felt better about themselves, because they were fulfilling society's role of primary caregiver. The study made no mention of physical or mental exhaustion from all this overachieving behavior.
And overall, husbands rated their wives as excellent mothers - the moms, on the other hand, rated their husbands lower, even if they were of the helpful variety.
It seems like the poor guys can't catch a break, either.
For all you women considering marriage and subsequent reproduction with a lazy bum who has no real interest in parenting duties? Go for it, ladies! You'll be able to look yourself in the mirror and know that you're doing a bangup job...just avoid staring at your unwashed hair, puke-stained shirt, and the undereye circles caused by lack of sleep.
Gee, too bad I'm too old for childbearing - it almost makes me want to jump back in the gene pool.