Let's look at the definition of grown-up:
There were some really tall, over the age of 21 people who didn't act like grown-ups. I gave birth to one, and married one.
They are very much alike, though it would make either or both of them ill to think it were so. They like to be right. They are opinionated, and aren't afraid to verbalize what they think. Neither one of them played nice this weekend.
Erin (the bride) told me she didn't like the Mister at all, that he was an arrogant jerk. Fine, she's entitled to her opinion. What wasn't so cool was that she made her announcement in front of my EX HUSBAND AND HIS WIFE. Score one crabby point for Erin.
The Mister found many things not to his liking while the rehearsal was going on. He decided to verbalize his feelings. Score one crabby point for The Mister.
Remember, it was not the Mister's wedding; it was Erin and Daryl's - they paid for the wedding, they can do whatever they want to celebrate their day.
At the reception, The Boy decided to use his formidable (at least in his mind) skills as a lady's man - and proceeded to hit on all the married women. He consumed several Shirley Temples, maybe the bubbles went to his head. He would use such witty remarks as, "Gee, maybe it's the drink getting to me, but you look great today."
When it came time for dancing, The Boy wanted to coerce these women to dance with him. Unfortunately, they were not interested. So he kicked it up a notch, and started touching them (a BIG NO-NO). His social skills deficits were oh so apparent; he was rebuffed again and again.
At one point, he had his hands on the photographer's shoulders, so The Mister went into action and told him to stop. The Boy and he argued, and The Mister grabbed The Boy's arm to pull him back to the tables.
Don't grab The Boy when he's upset, it's not pretty.
The Boy yelled. The Boy stormed out. Everyone inside the reception (and in the adjacent condominium complex outside) heard him. I stood outside in the heat of the evening, trying to calm him down.
The Mister at this point walked off, into the night.
Erin came out and told me that I ruined her wedding - and just repeated that sentiment this morning on IM.
I am hurt and angry and disappointed and filled with negative feelings towards people I love.