May 11, 2011

Two Years Later, and I Think I May Have Found My Way
It's my second Blogoversary! I have nothing lined up for a giveaway, I'm not doing PR for highly coveted cookware, and there are no bestsellers to be raffled off.

Sorry. I'd like to keep this a low-key event.

Especially since I couldn't convince any merchants to create glossy ads to sell my favorite merchandise.

Two years ago today, I started The Ratio of Failures. For the most part, I wrote exactly what I wanted (unless the disclosure was going to cause severe marital discord, then I might weigh my words a bit more carefully)...except that one time...and that other time.

Never mind. I wrote stuff, and sometimes, it got me in trouble with The Mister.

I can handle his usual delusions - but delusions AND anger? More than I care to deal with.

I often suffer from a lack of follow-through. I am as surprised as anyone in my family that I am still blogging with regularity.

Blog comments give me instant gratification - and when a clean kitchen floor makes me feel validated like your loving and thoughtful comments do, I'll be scrubbing that vinyl with a toothbrush on a regular basis.

Just recently, I felt the sting of being violated online, when one of my blog posts was copied in its entirety to another site. 

Without my permission.

Without attribution.

Without cash changing hands.

I'm still trying to determine what I can do about this, as the poser poster is in Germany.

What I've Learned about Myself from Blogging
  • Letting go of old hurts and secrets is freeing 
  • I always knew I could write silly/goofy/mildly humorous stuff, but I never once thought that I would be able to write heartfelt posts.
  • I have a need to write - whether it's to vent, or to inform, to entertain or to make a connection with others. Thank you all for reading and commenting.
  • The online friendships I've made through blogging has emboldened me to meet some bloggers in real life, and to put myself (and my written words) out there in my writing groups.
  • I may not be as shy as I thought I was.
  • I may have found a way to be snarky and yet positive at the same time. What fun that is for me!
  • I never considered myself to be overly positive or encouraging - yet many of my comments belie my original beliefs about myself. Maybe I really am that nice, after all.
  • Sharing The Boy's challenges and successes makes me feel a bit more hopeful about his future. I think I must have been hanging onto a thread of shame...but no more.
  • Though I still write mainly for me, I can't help but be influenced by all the other blogs I read...sometimes, they inspire me to write a post with a particular blogger in mind - and then, from your comments, I discover that most of us can relate to the subject at hand.
  • When I write a post that I think is the most hilarious thing I've ever written in my life? I'm the only one laughing. Invariably, that post gets the fewest comments.
  • I'm sure that someday I will hang up my keyboard (and quit blogging), but not just yet. I still have a paragraph or two that needs to come out. I hope you're writing and reading along with me.



  1. Firstly, I demand cookware. Please see to this posthaste.

    Secondly, Happy Blogoversery!

    Thirdly, Germany does have intellectual property and online copyright infringement laws. Now, they won't pursue it if it's being provided for free, I'm sure BUT if that site is making any money (advertisers, spam, etc) you've got a threat. Email the blog person, give them a verbal cease and desist, and threaten them with a lawyer. Even if nothing happens, at least they'll know someone will stand up to them. :)

  2. Woman, you should be buying extra keyboards. Don't ever hang yours up. You have a lot to offer. Thanks for making ME laugh and for being poignant and real.

  3. Congrats on the two years,,, many more should come(for our sake). Yes, to all of those things you listed,,,I have never ever read or felt one negative thing when I read what you write. My hat is off to you for the strides and gains you have made with "The Boy". I like that title, that is the reason I started refering to my wife as "The Boss",, lol. I dont think you need to change a thing about your blog or even yourself. I thank you,,glenn

  4. Here's to instant gratification!!

    And that sucks about someone taking your material--ugggh.

    Congrats on 2 years!

  5. Want me to go kick some German ass for you?

    Sorry...sorry...I've always wanted to say that...and you gave me an outlet to do so today!!! :-) congrats on your Blogiversary.

    I've found blogging to be very healing emotionally for me.

  6. Congratulations on your 2nd blogaversary! May you have many more. I think that blogging in some way encourages us to always present ourselves in the best light and even our challenges in the best possible way. That can't be a bad thing.

    Re. the copycat in Germany, when I was reading Pioneer Woman regularly, I once clicked on the link to an interesting comment that had been left. And what a surprise when I found a post that I had just read on PW's blog written exactly the same, but posted on that woman's blog as her own. So, if you've been copied, you're at least in good company!

  7. I'm not great on follow through either so I can relate to so much of what you said in this post. It is something that is such a part of my life now that I can't imagine stopping (slowing down ... yes. Stopping? No.) And I wish you for you many many more years of blogging. You truly entertain and touch me all the time.

  8. Happy Bloggaversary. You rock. And you also have encouraged me to spread my wings. I will always be grateful for that.

  9. Your blog is great and you are so funny - and heartfelt too! And did this person act like it was their post that they stole from you? Did they give you any kind of credit? I'm curious. If they didn't, well, what does one do?

  10. I totally agree with your first bullet point. I've publicized some of my most embarrassing moments on my blog and it's amazing how freeing it is to get those incidents out in the open!

    Happy Blogiversary


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